Praying for Sandy Hook Elementary School, Newtown CT..

"As a father of three kids, I am sadden and is heart broken for what had happen at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown Connecticut, Praying for all of them. You are all now in a better place where there is joy and love with God."

"The media needs to stop giving these monster the headline that they want and don't deserve. Remember the victims and only the victim. Stop giving the criminal headline and nick name. It's not a movie, this is real life." Simple ~realtalk~

 

"There are parents who have blessed their children with greatness and other parents who have ruined their children's fragile minds and hearts. What we do affects others. Our lives have the power to create good or purvey evil. It is important that we choose to do good." -- Jim Rohn

TURN OFF THE NEWS.......

Morgan Freeman's brilliant take on what happened yesterday :

"You want to know why. This may sound cynical, but here's why.

It's because of the way the media reports it. Flip on the news and watch how we treat the Batman theater shooter and the Oregon mall shooter like celebrities. Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris are household names, but do you know the name of a single *victim* of Columbine? Disturbed
people who would otherwise just off themselves in their basements see the news and want to top it by doing something worse, and going out in a memorable way. Why a grade school? Why children? Because he'll be remembered as a horrible monster, instead of a sad nobody.

CNN's article says that if the body count "holds up", this will rank as the second deadliest shooting behind Virginia Tech, as if statistics somehow make one shooting worse than another. Then they post a video interview of third-graders for all the details of what they saw and heard while the shootings were happening. Fox News has plastered the killer's face on all their reports for hours. Any articles or news stories yet that focus on the victims and ignore the killer's identity? None that I've seen yet. Because they don't sell. So congratulations, sensationalist media, you've just lit the fire for someone to top this and knock off a day care center or a maternity ward next.

You can help by forgetting you ever read this man's name, and remembering the name of at least one victim. You can help by donating to mental health research instead of pointing to gun control as the problem. You can help by turning off the news."

        I will never understand why or how someone can be so evil and heartless to take the lives of the little one. They are our most innocent in this world. Having three kids that are the same age as the children that were gun down at Sandy Hook. I know how much my heart would break, if it had happen to my kids.
    It was 9am pacific time as I turn on my radio to listen the morning news. Sandy Hook was the first thing that they were talking about and as soon as I heard that kids were gun down, my heart just drop. All day long they were in my mind as I kept working. It was hard at time knowing that I have kids of the same age that is in elementary also.
    How can this be our most beloved and innocent children became a victims of someone evil doing. Can we really ever stop this from happening? We can never really stop anything from happening but we can make it better and safer for our kids to go to school. There are many things we can do and if we so much love our little one. We all must come to an answer together.
     No time for blaming each other, lets just do what is right and fine an answer together. I am a gun owner myself but I think changing the gun law will not stop violent in our society. My own opinion would be to make the school safer. I think that would be the easiest thing and first thing we can do. Everyone know how politic work. They only work when politician benefit.
 

High End Brand.........................................Don't be fooled...............

 " Crazy, how people is willing to spend so much money on clothing brand to look rich and it is kinda funny how many people say they don't like the rich but everyone wants to become rich or a least look rich." Simple, ~real talk~

Daily Mojo: "Nothing more pitiful than a guy who is smart… and broke." - Jim Rohn. Gotta DO something with your smartness....
                                    

    Don't get me wrong. I like fashion as much as the next person. Who doesn't want to look good. How we dress and what we wear say a lot about who we are but I will never over pay for any clothing brand. Over paying is spending more then what I'm getting paid to make a living. $200.00 or more for any piece of clothing to me is just crazy but I guess if you got it like that then it's alright.
    I will never understand working class people spending money for high end fashion. I like living with in my means. Working class means working class not rich. I know everybody wants to be a baller. Funny what working class people will pay to look rich or to make them self look like they're doing good and they wonder why their broke.
    People need to quit bitching about not making enough money, come on this is America. Live with in your mean and quit trying to look rich. People make me laugh out loud, just because how much people they don't know anything about,matter to them. People I know or don't know doesn't really matter to me and I will dress or wear any brand I want as long as it looks good to me.
     Looking good in fashion doesn't mean you have to spent a whole lot of money or wear only high end fashion brand. Looking good is about how you dress and carry your self not the brand you wear but I guess if you want it because it makes you feel good then more power to you. Don't let me stop you. Go a head and do what you do but don't bitch about it.
      I'm not blogging about this to stop anyone. This is just my opinion and how I see it. Fashion, I don't think that you have to spend a whole lot to look good and the brand you wear doesn't make you look any richer. Keep it simple, keep it real. Real clothing for real people Must Be Nice Apparel..

Snobs.......................Can't stand them..............

"Money doesn't make you any better then anybody else, it just give you more things then the rest of us but stop acting like your sh*t don't stink like everybody else"...( Sorry about having to say it like that but that's a fact) Simple~real talk~

    I am still shock sometime seeing how people with money act but I guess, sometime seeing how people with out money act toward them is not right either. I know it's not easy to to become rich. Rich people had to work hard to get where they are but I just don't think that having more money then the next person should make you any better.
    Being like me, a working class person that came from a poor background and is now trying to get more out of life. I guess I can understand both side but we all gotta start from some where, not everybody is born rich. Being rich take drive and risk, a lot of risk..
    I not trying to say that all people with money act like that but some do and I just think it is funny. Sometime I would be out hanging in the  rich people area..I would have a ball with my kids and playing around. I would say things to my kids, like (son, son you must behave) but my kids would tell me to stop talking like that and just laugh..
    So rich or not I just think we all should respect each other. We all still gotta work to live and everybody got a job to go to. The only thing different is the job but still respect the person that is doing a job you would not do because somebody gotta do it and just be glad it's not you for now.....

Change............Nobody likes it...............

"Change is something we learn to do, even if we don't want to because change is part of growing up, Change is not a bad thing when we change to become better."~real talk~

    Many people I know don't want to change and they wonder why their life is still the same with the same drama. I changed 180 and will never go back. I think most people don't want to change because that they are afraid to change. Change is about doing something different and getting out of your comfort zone.
     I know it wasn't easy for me and I don't think it is easy for anybody. I have learned to understand the world around me and I think that is just part of growing up. Learning to accept how things works because it's a big world out there and it's not just about you or me.
     I use to get mad at the system because I was always in trouble with the law but as I got older I understand that everybody is just doing their job. The system is already set up the way it is and if you don't like it, well you better learn to accept it to just to make it easy on yourself.
     I am married and is a family man, so for me the system is a good thing, so just as long as I keep within the line. I can say it's not easy all the time but you learned to just deal with it because we can't all just do what we want when we want.
      Change for me is a very good thing and yes I'm not the same person that I use to be because before I was just a kid learning about life, I didn't understand everything and I don't think any kids does. I try not to get to up set with my kids because I understand that they are still a kid and they still have a long ways to go but it's not easy all the time, I can say that.
      I never thought that I would change anything about myself when I was younger but as I got older. I started to change everything about myself from how I dress, how I talk and if need be change the people around me, not say that I am better but if I want better, I better get a better team of people around me. Get the people that will help you to become successful and not the people that put you down all the time because that's what good people or friends do for each other. Come see me if you ever need help and my hand will always be out there but I never see the same in return. So now should I change the people around me? I think so...... Change it's a good thing...do it for yourself because you deserve it......
   

Love.......................is Crazy................

"Being in love can drive a person crazy sometime but I guess that's what love is. Love is about understanding, love is feeling, love is caring, love is crazy at times and it makes you do stupid things but that's what real love is...." Simple. ~real talk~

  "A good woman believes in her man sticks by him and helps him reach his dreams a good man in return gives her the world and everything in it. Everything always comes full. circle."

    I'm not going to say that love is easy or that I am an expert at love but I do know something about love because love is a feeling that we all have. Good person or a bad person but love is something that we all want. I love  my wife, our kids, family and friends that are good to me.
    I am now married for over 8 years and still going but it not easy because we are two very different people that do love each other and want it to work. I am not trying to be right about everything all the time but I am trying to do what is best for us to make it work.
    I am a guy and so I will see things very different for my wife but that doesn't mean we can't make it work. I do make bad choices sometime but that's because I'm human. Like, I said I'm not perfect but I will always try my best. I'm not trying to make and excuse about everything that goes wrong. I will make mistake along the way because I am living and is always still learning.
   Love is crazy because how it's works sometime. I really don't think that anyone is perfect at this love thing. Two people working together at anything is never easy and with love, I think it is even harder because of our feeling. Love is a feeling and when feeling get involve in anything it's never easy.
   Even loving my kids is not easy, I mean it is easy in sense that they are my kids and I want nothing but the best for them but I know it not easy at times because of the love I have for them but like I say love it's not easy. Love is a feeling and when our feeling get into it, it gets harder.
   I don't think there is any perfect relationship when it comes to love because love to me is a work in progress. Love is something we build with the people we love to make it stronger from learning from each other and showing each other how much we love one another. It is about being willing to do whatever to make it work.
   Love is something everybody wants but you have to know how to love to be love, Simple take how you want it but feeling is something we all have and love is something we all want..........

Haters..............They're EVERWHERE..............

"Haters, Nobody wants to see you shine. They are your Friends, Co-worker, Bosses and yes even Family. Haters come from everywhere. It's sad to say that but most of the time it's people you know." ~real talk~

   I know that, I'm not a haters but the only thing I hate the most is wanting something so bad and can't get it yet or get to it yet but it alright "like" I say maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow but I know someday. I just got to keep working hard at it and if any haters wants to stop my shine, go ahead and try because you just wasting your time.
    Haters are most of time the people you know because if someone don't know you, they really don't care or have any reason to hate. I know because, I see it everyday and nobody I know wants to hear about my dream. The only one is my wife but  that's all I need. I not mad or bitter about it because I understand and that is why I don't talk about it to the people I know anymore. I just blog about it on my blog because it a place where I can be me "freely" it's sad but true.
    I don't have time to hate and I don't care about how well someone is doing or not because most of the time, I'm to busy worry about me. I know some might think that like I'm selfish but if you really look at it. I think we all think the same because nobody is going to care about me more then me because I know that at the end of day it's about you and it's about me that's it.
   Hater, they spend to much time worry about somebody else and not worry about them self and that is why they are left behind. If you keep worry about somebody else becoming more successful then you then you got to much time on your hand and that is when you became just "like" them a HATER.
    People that want to become successful don't have time to hate because everybody knows how hard it is and that is why I don't get mad about others becoming more successful then me. Anyone that is successful, they worked their butt off just to get there and made sacrifice. I think you can ask any rich person that and they will all tell you the same thing. If you don't want to ask then just pick up a book and read all the stories that rich people tell about how they got to where they are.
     I had more stranger wish me luck then anyone I know but "like" I say I'm not mad about, I'm just sadden and is just disappointed at the fact but it's all good because I keep pushing forward.So don't be a hater because it's not a good thing and it's a waste of your time. Go get what you want out of life because NOBODY is going to give it to you. Simple and that is real talk...

The Modern Man..................Understand Him...........

" The modern man is a man that understand the world around him. Never letting his feeling control his judgement and know that all men are equal." Simple ~real talk~

    It is not so easy now a days with so many different kinds of men becoming successful from many walk of life. I would think of myself to be a modern man but I know everyone will have their own opinion and so this will be mine.
     A modern man is a man that understand the world around him. A person with integrity and good judgement. A modern man knows how to dress for the occasion and will always dress in a respectable manner. Never letting his personal feeling get the best of him and never letting his ideology over take his common sense. Always doing what he feel that is right but will always listen to reason. A modern man is always learning from his environment and listening when someone is talking. He is always keeping an open mind to every topic and keeping his judgement in reserve.
     So many men, in so many category with so many different up bringing. People personal up bringing or the environment they came from should not matter as much but what matter more is how the man turn out as an adult. A modern man should be judge for his character and his accomplishment in life. I am proof that my poor and rough up bringing did not make me a bitter man, it made me a more understanding and humble man.
      A modern man is a man that is grown and knows how to act his age. Giving respect to anyone that he meets in life. Respect for a modern man is very important because as a man you want to be respected. Being respected is always and will be a man thing. Many men have ego and many men have pride but with me, I am more of a man with pride then ego. I understand that it is almost the same thing but pride is what I feel fit for me.
       Pride to me is about standing on principle and ego is about enforcing your will to be respected or understood. I not a man of ego but more of pride, pride in what I do and pride in who I am because with pride I don't have to prove to anyone but myself. Pride is about who I am and what I stand for doing whatever I do with passion not matter what that is that I do in life and just being the best I can be.
        The modern man knows how to keep everything in balance from his work, family, friends and play. He knows his priority and knows what needs to be done. Living his life to be the best that he can be that to me is what the modern man is..

In America...Anything is Possible.....Miss Minnesota 2012

" Really, it happen..A refugee born immigrants..Miss Minnesota 2012. A Laos girl." Simple All men and women are created equal.~real talk~

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     The American dream, I believe it because in America anything is possible. America is the land of opportunity and it is for anyone that wants it bad enough. Never say never and just go for it. America put a man on the moon that right there just shows you that you can make what you want real but only if you believe in yourself and work hard for it.
    I can say that I am so proud of her Miss Minnesota 2012, not just because she is from Laos like me but I can understand how hard it is to get to a goal of wanting something so bad and you know the odds are against you. Living in a country that sometime might think you will ever be accepted because the fact that you was not born here or look like a typical American person.
     I have come a long way myself to learn to understand America and it's American value. America will always accept you not matter what, that is why we were given the chances to come here and pursue the American dream. America is a country that was build from immigrant.
     Living in America you have to learn to understand the American value and that is how you become successful. I love it here because you can always be yourself. Being American is about American value that to me is what I have come to learned.
     America is a country that believe in it's people and that is why we have the freedom to pursuer our own dream by our self. The only person that can stop us is our self. Everything has been done here in America from having nothing to having everything, anybody can do it. I am proof my self, a refugee from Laos chasing my American dream to make it to where I want to be. A man that is driven in life to become successful and it is all possible in America the land of opportunity. I am living the American dream everyday because that is what being in America is about. Live your life, chase your dream, the American dream because it is Possible, just go get it! ~real talk~

Tired of Drama..................Play Fake..............

" I guess being fake sometime does help. Some people are not wroth the time to even be real with because they just won't get it." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

     I really don't like to play fake but sometime I understand that you have too because some people are not wroth the time. Some argument is not wroth arguing and most drama are a wast of time. I have come a long why to learn to understand that holding my personal feeling about things or others inside to keep myself away from drama.
     I been around a lot of drama in my life time and all the drama that I have been in, was never really wroth my time. People can be a pain sometime but we have to learn to deal with each other. The best way to deal with people is not to get into and argument with them about things.
     I've learned to keep my opinion to myself ,when I know that the other person will not listen to reason. I think I am very open mined when it comes to listening to others opinion but I don't think that most people feel the same. People want to always think that they area lways right. I know that I don't know everything and I don't think any one person does but if I don't know something, I will not lie about it. I am a person of facts and not about my personal view or feeling will ever get in the way.
     Everybody wants to be the person that is always right. I'm not always right that why when I don't know something I will just say I don't know. Many people love to talk with their feeling when talking. I don't like to put to much of what I feel into what I am talking about because that is my personal feeling or opinion. I know some people will not understand my point of view.
     This is life and most drama are not worth the time. Nobody is paying my bills for me or is worry about my life. So this is how I deal with people. Play fake when I have too because drama over personal differences is not wroth it. Sometime it is best to just play along with people, so that drama doesn't break out. It's not about being fake, it's about not having to deal with drama. Less drama in life then the more happy we will be. Life I  get it, less drama more time for the things that matter.. simple real talk.........

Don't Need 2 Care....................4 Real...........

"Life can be tricky at times because of the game people play, be real with who you are and life will be just fine." Simple, .~real talk~

    I sometime do get tired of dealing with people because of the game people play.  Like I say I'm not perfect and nobody is but come on people let's get real. Don't need to front like they care because I get it this is life and we all trying to win but if you are real with it then that's cool.
     Dealing with people is not easy because people can be selfish at time. I mean don't get me wrong, I'm in it for the same thing but I ain't hating on anyone that can get it. If you want to be cool then be cool, don't need to hate because hating doesn't get you far in life.
     So, so tired, I'm not anti social but if I have to deal with fake people, I might as well be by myself and that's real talk. I don't want to have to deal with people that is always so worry about what others think. I just want to chill and live my life nicely.
     I know we have to always deal with people because that is part of life but when others see that you are doing better then them, that is when they start hating but I guess that's part of life too. I wanna be rich but who doesn't? Life, it's about how hard you are willing to work for it, that gets you there.
     Don't need to care but I always play nice because I know I have too. Life is not just about me but it is also about people around me. My greatest joy would be spending time with my wife and our kids. I do enjoy hang out with others also but not to much because it is a lot of work. Having a party and a get together every now and then is cool.
      I care only if people around me care because I understand life. I know this world is bigger then us all but in life we all just want to be happy. Happy is only easy for the people that get it. Life it's simple as back and white. I get it and I don't need to care for people that don't care. I only care if people around me care and that's real talk.......
    
 

Young................Wild..........and........Free...........

"Gotta love it, It was the best of times, Young, wild, crazy, sometime stupid and free to be. Enjoy it because we don't stay young forever." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

      I still remember it, like it was yesterday, young, wild and free. It wasn't that long a go for me but I know 32 is not young either. It is nice being young because you had no real responsibility at all and that was the nice thing about being young.
    Not young anymore but I still can get down with anybody. I mean when it comes to partying, trust me I can get down with the best of them. I've been partying ever since I was a teen and I can tell you that it was some crazy and good times. I was throwing a party's every chance I had and I'm not talking about small party either. I had my first big party when I was maybe 14 and I still remember it till now because the first party I had was five days long(1995 new year).
     So I do know something about being young, wild and free. Partying every weekend and I was even throwing party at the local Martin Luther King Center in Redding California, when I was fifteen years old. The only reason why I got to do that was because of my dancing crew. We practice there and the center had sponsor us to keep us out of trouble. They made us uniform and even put us in the Redding city parade. I will get that video someday when I get back to Redding. Thanks Eddie for everything. I had three big party there before they had told me to stop because every party I had, there was always a shooting between rival gangs but that didn't stop me from throwing party because I just moved the location to my neighborhood or better yet my block.
     Young, wild and free to be. Whenever my mom left out of town, I would never want to go with her because I knew I would have the place to myself, so most of the time I stayed home and party, every chance I got, I partied.
      I still party but I know now that things are not the same anymore, I'm not single. I am married and we have three kids together. So most of my party now are kids birthday party but I still enjoy throwing a party every now and then, when I do get a chance, I live it, I love it and I enjoy it. Like I said before I don't have time for drama or B.S. So I'm just trying to make the best out of everyday I got because we will never know, when it is going to be our time to go. So live it and have a party..real talk

Life...........Everybody Gots A Story 2 Tell..........

" We all got a story but the only story that is wroth reading is a story that you can learn from." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

    

       I'm not going to say that my story is better then anyone else story but my story is still my story. If I am making the time to write about my life then to me my story is worth telling. I can honesty say that I have came along way to be who I am today and is very proud to have turn out this way. I would never thought that I would ever be like this meaning people from the street, would call me a "square" but I am so proud to be a square because I'll never have to look over my shoulder anymore. Square is a street term for being a goody good or sometime boring person but I am find with that because people that are from the street or ghetto that call me that, don't really bother me.
       I have turn my lifestyle upside down and have become a square that I am very proud off because if anybody that have seen all the thing I have been through would never think that off me. Ever since I have moved to Washington state my goal was to not let anyone know about my past or how I use to be. I came out here to start a new life and to make a new me.
       I will not go into to much detail about how I use to be but all I can say is that I am not the same person that I use to be as a teenager but I don't think anyone of us really want to stay the same way forever. I knew that my lifestyle back then was not getting me anywhere and it was all bad. The street life was not the life I wanted for myself and being ghetto was not what I want people to think of me.
       People from the street would probably call me white wash now but like I say I don't really care what they think because street credit, I've learned is not a credit you would want as an adult. Ghetto talk and ignorant point of view on life was how we see things from the ghetto point of view. Most of us can't control our emotion and will act out in violent because that is the only way we know. I know now that it is not the best way to solve anything.
      I am grown, married and we have three kids together. I am now trying to give my kids all the opportunity that is out there and to teach them that they can be anything they want to be. I can tell you that I would never think that this is possible for people like me but I know now that anything is possible because it is truly up to us and us alone to make it but you have to understand what it take to get there.
      I have learned in order to make it anywhere in life you have to first understand where you are living and know your environment. Just like Tarzan the boy that was raise in the jungle by animal and became king of the jungle. Learn the enviorment and then adapt to it. I am from Laos but now live in America and so to become successful in America then I have to be American.
     The best thing about being in America is that you really never have to give up anything from your past if you don't want too because here you have all the freedom you need and that is why so many come here for that American dream. Crazy that you have people from around the world that dream of moving to America and that is all they really want. I am grateful everyday that I am here. I didn't understand it at first but now I know everything I need to know to make it here. Be American and understand the American value then the American dream is out there for the taking and this is real talk....

Don't Talk About It................Be About It...............

" Dreams is about seeing what others don't see. Making dreams real is what's life is about. So if you can't make it real then quit day dreaming because life is real.Dreams doesn't come easy for anybody, Dreams is about hard work and wanting it more then the next person.. Don't talk about it, Be about it." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

         I'm don't like to just talk about it. I'm the type that like to be about it because I don't like wasting my time talking. Life' I get it, if I want something done then I have to do it. I live by this everyday from my home life to my work life. Do it, get it done and move on to the next thing.
         I don't understand people that complain about things not getting done. The way I look at it is that if you got time to complain about it, you got time to get it done. I never expect anyone to do anything for me because if anybody wants to do something for you then you don't have to ask them.
         I know my life is real and my dreams are real. Everyday I work harder to get closer to my dream. I never expect anyone to help or understand my dream because this is my dream and I get it, this is life. We all gotta live first and to make dreams happen then, you gotta make sacrifice. Dreams are not free or easy. Just take a look around and see how many people around you have dreams of their own but never take the action needed to make it real.
       We all have dreams but not everybody can make that dream real because dreams are not easy and life is harder when chasing that dream at the same time. We all just want to live comfortably to be happy but as for me. I have always told my wife, never get comfortable because when you get comfortable then you forget where you are going. Getting comfortable is easy and anybody can do that but chasing a dream while raising three kids with everyday bills is not.
       I know if I want my dream to happen it is going take a lot of hard work. Hard work for me is easy because giving up on my dream is even harder. If I can't give up on my dream then I know what I have to do. Hard work is not hard work when you enjoy doing it because when you love doing something it is a passion and passion is love. Doing something you love people around you will see it and know it. Don't talk about, just be about it....Simple.

90's..............Music... (Crazy Times, My Generation)

" It was good, sad, bad, happy and crazy times. M t.v, B.E.T, V.h.1, Rock & Roll, Grung, Gangster Rap, Pop, R & B, Country and can't forget the beeper that was before the cell phone.. Remember that. Crazy how time flies." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

    Man, the 90's was some crazy times but I guess that every generation has it's times. I am glad that I am grown now but siting here  and  thinking back kinda makes me laugh about it sometime. Their was a lot of mix lifestyle back then and you can tell by all the different kinds of music that was out there. Most of us were just coming out of the 80's that was the Rock & Roll years.
    I was only 11 years old back in 1990 and it's funny sometime, when I look back. It doesn't feel likes it was that long ago but I know it was. Crazy how fast we grow and don't even know it. I was in the fourth grade and hair spray was still in style.
    Me and my family move to the United State in 1986. 1992 my mom left my dad and moved us children to Redding California. I never knew that their were so many Asian in America til I moved to California.
     This is my teenage years,Snoop Dogg and Dr. Dre just made it big with their rap song" Nothing but a G thing" and that was it. California and West coast gangster rap made it to the big time. Gang lifestyle was a normal thing back then but I know now that it was the right thing but hey we live and we learn that's what life is about.
     Their were a lot of  good times and bad times. Gang lifestyle was everywhere but it's over now but the thing I miss most was the music. All the  music was very different back then.  I think today music all sound the same. You got rapper singing, Rocker rapping and all the music is now mix into one. Country/ Rap, R&B/ Rap, Pop/Rap, Rock/Rap, I mean don't get me wrong but it was a lot nicer when you can till the different about the music and the lifestyle but now everything sound the same.
    All music is good music that why there are so many kinds of music. Music is a personal choice, music doesn't not define who we are. Everybody got there own taste in music. I like to listen to just about everything. I like the 90's music because that was my generation and I like the fact that they were so many different kinds of music. Now almost everything sound the same but it's all good because we got YouTube, so we can always listen to what we want.
    This is a new generation now and every generation has its own style of music because I understand every generation will do their own thing but as for me I'm a 90's generation better yet Generation X or the M t.v generation. Whatever you might think about the 90's that is up to you but as for me it was about living life. We live, we learn and we grow up that's real talk....

America.................. Understand It................

"You don't need to be born in America to be American. You just need to understand it. Everyone came to America for a reason. 1492" Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

    A person that thinks, you need to be born in Amercia to be American really, just don't understand what being an American is about. America is the world super power for a reason and that's why it's number one.
    Given the fact I wasn't born here and it took me sometime to understand it. It's wasn't easy because many people didn't understand my people but that what makes America great. It's a country that understand why many of its people come from around the world to be here.
    Both my parent became U.S citizen before I was eighteen, so by law that makes me, my little brother and little sister U.S citizen. I remember helping my mom drive to Sacramento California to take her citizenship test.
    We all started from somewhere to be here and that is the root of America. I know my family history in America doesn't go that far back or had help to fight for American Independent but I am here now and I am not planing to go anywhere. I know, I will die here later in my life. This is my homeland now and this is all I know.
      I remember working in a Italian restaurant in downtown Cleveland Ohio and it was full of Italian. I think I was seventeen years old at the time. I was working part time and I remember somebody that was working there. Had ask me a question and he was from eastern Europe. He said if Laos and America had gotten into war? Which side would I be on? I said America and he said why?
      I said why would I fight for a country that I don't live in and he had told me he would not fight for America. He said he was only here for the money. Well I said good luck because you are going to be on the losing side but I guess everybody got their own reason but as for me I am not going to fight for a country that me and my family had to leave to get a better life.
      I was not born here but this is all I know and all I am going to be. My kids is all American and they don't even know how to speak the Laos language. They think it's funny when they hear me and their mom speak it. People ask me why I don't teach them and I say why am I going to make it harder on my kids because I remember how hard it was for me.
     America, you just gotta understand it. Like I said before it's not about where you are from, it's about where your at that matter because that is where you are living. I live here and it took me sometime to understand it because I was not accepted by some people here and they didn't think I belong here but the system is already set up for anyone that wants to be here. They will always be people that just don't understand what being American is about but that is their ignorant. The system is set up for anyone that understand it and wants to benefit from it. The American dream is for anybody that wants it but you must be willing to work hard for it. Being American doesn't mean you have to lose your ways. Being American is about understand why you are here. ~real talk~ Happy Leap Year everyone...enjoy it because getting a extra day is always nice....

Negative People is the Problem...........Not The Happy One..........

" Being happy is not that hard, if you understand life. Negative people just won't get it. " Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

     My life is never perfect and I  don't expect it to be but I get it. It's real simple to me, just make the best out of whatever. I grew up not having much, so I do expect much. I think the people that want more then what they are willing to do for them self is the reason why they become unhappy or negative. Trust me, I know what it's like to be negative all the time because I grew up poor and so I was around the ghetto lifestyle a lot. So being where I am now, I'm happy with it becuase I know it could always be wrost.
     I think most of us do get it but I know negative people just don't get it, no matter what you say to them. I'm not trying to beat down on negative people because I use to think the same way but that's when I didn't understand life. Mad at the world, mad at anyone that didn't understand me and didn't like people that are happy or people that have it better then me but as I got older. I've learned to change because I understand it, now.
    Negative people can't stand happy people. Happy people is the reason why we all can sleep better at night. I guess I can thank the happy people for making life better for everyone because let get real negative people can't or won't. Negative people just want everybody around them to feel like them, so that they can feel better about them self. Negative people are bitter people and they don't understand life or get it.
   It's not like my life is any different from before but the only thing that change is my lifestyle and my mind set. I can say that is the biggest thing that have change about me. My view point on life and the fact that I have kids now made me think a little different because it's not just about me anymore.
   Negative people do get on my nerve and I think sometime they can stand people being happy. This happen a lot when I am at work. Working with people with no college degree can be tough sometime because with no colleges degree then it's become about ego or just who has it better at work. People at my work is always putting each other down, like little kids com'n let grow up people. They never stop to think that we all work in the same place. So, I just think it is funny to me but I guess whatever make them self feel good.
    The one thing about me is I don't kiss ass for anything but I am nice and want people to respect me for who I am. I give respect to anyone that don't come at me wrong but if you think that you are special or better then me that when you don't get  my respect. Like I say I'm not better, I'm just tried of drama and just trying to make it through the day. This is life and I know not everyday is going to be perfect.

Opportunity....................They Come...........They Go...........

     "When an Opportunity come, you better take it! Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

The Chinese word for crisis share a character with the word opportunity

       One thing about me is that I am an Opportunist, I don't let any opportunity pass me by because we only get one chance at life. Never been the lucky type, so everything I have, I work hard for. I don't gamble but I do make investment. Everything to me is an investment that how I look at my life ever since I got married and had kids. My wife, kids, family, friends and living it's all an investment.
        I am not a teenager anymore or act like one but every now and then I still want to have fun. I am not trying to be Mr. popular or a big shot, I'm just trying to get mine. Growing up on welfare made me more hungry to suceed in life, so that how I learned to live within my mean.
       I am not going into to much detail about all the opportunity that came my way but I did try it all. When me and now wife was still dating. I never wanted to get married but I was in love with her and feel that she is the one for me because when we met she never judge me. She never listen to what others say about me and never judge me becasue of my past. She always listen and understood me. The best think about her is that she always believe in me and believe in me when others don't.
       I was 22 years old at that time and didn't know anything about being married but how could I. After we got married, we were staying with her parent and I can tell you. I did not want to move in at all but you learn real quick about marriage. The good thing about me and my wife is that we always told each other that everything we do will be done fifty, fifty. We are still doing that now.
      November,1,2003 just got married then she was pregnant with our first child but anyway the next big opportunity that came my way was because of a co-work. He haded ask me if I wanted to buy a house and it was right before the housing boom 2004. I knew I had bad credit but gave it a shot anyway. The loan lady I had met with ran my credit and said we got a lot of work to do but I can get you into a home.
        Two long years, she helped and guide me to fix my credit. Finally in October 2005, we pick and bought our first home together. It wasn't where we wanted to live nor the first home we wanted but at that time it was not easy because everybody was buying houses. Then one day I talking to somebody at my work and they had told me that they own two homes. So I said I wanted two houses too and so I call my loan lady up and she said, it will be some hard work but I can get you another house. I was only making $15.00 an hour at my job and my wife was making about the same with her new job she just started.
       February 2007 we moved into our second home and everything was all good till the housing bubble burst then my wife got laid off. I went and got a second job because I didn't want to lose what we work so hard for. I was working two full time job back to back eight hours each job. It wasn't easy but it had to be done. I was doing it for almost one year then my dad past away and added a third child to our family. So I had to give up my rental home and focus on one. I lost all of my investment in real estate, at one point the value of my two home was about $8000,000.00 but that is all gone now and life goes on can't keep looking back, just forward.(lesson learned)
       The only good thing about working two job was the fact, I seen so much people that was working one job had it good and most I can say was still lazy with one job. So I started saying "Must Be Nice to be" you to some of my co-worker then it caught on. I said it so much that a friend / co-worker said to me. I'm going to make a shirt for you and put "Must Be Nice" and that when it click in my head then after selling my rental home. I trademarked that name and now is working on my own clothing line.
       I didn't know anything about design or making clothing but I was willing to learn. After one year running around trying to get this done. It was not easy, people at my job said a lot mean things to me, like I am a nobody and even write stupid on my business card then throw in on the ground. I'm not worry about it and it will not stop me.  I'm so use to being put down by weak mined people because that what they do to make them feel better about them self. I don't need to do that to people to make myself feel good and that real talk. Trust me, the people at work my job is not the people that is going to make me rich. There are so many people out there I don't even care.
    So now here I am after two years running around and trying to get help on it anyway I could but nobody wants to help or believe in me but only my wife and kids. I even had a producer from a new reality competition show for a fashion line ask me to audition for it. I went for it and didn't make it in but it's not going to stop me from making my dreams come true on my own. Not having the funding to get it done and having to pay people to do things for me because I didn't know anything about design. So everything was put on hold. I will try out for the show agian because I am not a quitter.
          Now finally my wife got a job and now we are back in business, thanks babe for always having my back and always believing in me. She is my love, my wife, best friend, business partner and investor, without her all this could have not been done or possible but that is what true love is and through it all she always have my back. I am grateful to have someone like that in my life.  Opportunity come and opportunity go, so jump at it if it comes your way. I did it and with no regret that is why I am still here, doing it  and that is real talk.

My Benefit.................Your Gain...................

 "If I gain you gain, that is how it works, Stop thinking about what I am gaining, just think about your own gain and benefit from knowing someone that is doing things. Don't hate, If I don't gain, you don't gain. " Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

     I will never understand it. Why? So many people out there is always worry about somebody else gaining more then they are but I guess this is life. I know that there will always be people that is doing better then me but I am fine with it because I understand it. So I am not trying to stop anyone from gaining  more then me because I can't get it all and no one person can ever get it all. I'm just trying to get my share of the American pie.
      I don't have a college degree and many people I know don't either but that doesn't mean we are less valuable or able to do anything in life. Some of use might made some bad choices in life but I still think that we are all still capable of anything if we want something bad enough.
      I don't have any rich friends or know anybody personally that is rich but I am fine with that too. I always wanted more out of life just because of where I came from. So with me, I am always trying to make more out of what I can. I am not rich and don't know anybody rich but I do want to get there just like everyone else.
     Every time I learn something or fine away to make more money. I will always share it with people I know because that is just how I am. Ever since I was a teenage, I have been doing that because I want people around to have the same thing. I think in life we all deserve better but I know most people do not think like that and even the people I have help don't think like that.
     I will never understand, why? Me, I'm always  chasing that money just because I want it and know I need it.  If I benefit then the people around me will benefit first, right? I think that is how it works because people hook the people around them up first then everybody else but only if they are good to you.
     Most people is to worry about what I am gaining. So they will not think about what they are benefiting. Benefit to me is not just about money. Benefiting comes in so many way, a friendship that you can depend on is maybe the best benefit out of it all because money comes and goes.  It is never easy finding a friendship that you can count on or good people but I know that they are out there, trust me I have never burn any of my friendship and have always been good to them all.
      Everything I have done in my life, I have always try to help people and bring them along with my success but to many I have learned from will not want any part of it because they are to worry about what I am gaining but that is cool with me. I will not stop just because of that but when I get there, I know they will want to be a part of it because this is life and I get it but by then it is to late.~ real talk~

So Tired............................Of Working.....................

" A job is  a job and nobody work to become rich, We work to make a living." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

    Okay I'm not going to set here and lie and say I enjoy working. I am just like everybody else. I wake up every morning to go to work. Like I said before, I been working since I was 12 years old but of course not full time. My first job was working in a bowling ally, it was me and childhood friend from the neighborhood in Cleveland, Ohio at that time. We were working for tip, our job was to pick up the bowling pin after they knock it down because the place we work at had the old style bowling machine that didn't pick up the pin. so I know a little something about working.
     The thing that drives me crazy are the people I work with, not that I am better then anybody but I just think I deal with work better then most people. I don't like getting up everyday and going to work because having to deal with people at work is what makes my job hard. I am really simple, when it comes to work, get the job done and go home.
     Sometime being at work is like being in high school but worst because we are all adult. Seeing grown people at work pouting, just because they don't want to be there and have a bad attitude. I don't think it's the job that is hard but more about the people I work with.
      Nobody wants to get up everyday and go to work but I think most of us understand that it is something we all have to do. We all gotta do it from the President, C.E.O, bosses, policeman, doctor, company owner, small business owner and I mean everybody because this is life. I just don't understand people sometime.
      People please don't bring your personal feeling out at work or just because you got problems at home doesn't mean the rest of us at work have to deal with your attitude. Trust me, I got problem too but I don't bring my problems to work. We are all living life the same way and we have to deal with the same drama. Me, when I am at work, I know I have to put on my game face and trust me it's not easy.
       Like it or not, work is part of life and if you still don't get it that means your problem is not going to go away anytime soon. So if I was you, I'll make the best out of it because a job doesn't end for a long time. I mean retirement age is now at 67 years old. So good luck to the people with the shitty attitude but just try to keep it to yourself. ~ real talk~

Facebook.........The New HangOut...............

  " Facebook, Social networking without the hassle. A hangout without hanging out." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

         Facebook it's a great place for people. Cyber drama is safer then real drama, a place to vent and speak your mind. I luv it and it almost like a bad addiction but safer for you. A hang out for friends that haven't seen each other for a while or just a place to share you everyday life with everybody in your life.
         I am addicted but in a good way that is. It is nice to see how my family and friends are doing or just hangout together without the work. You can chill, chat or play games, whatever you wanna do it's all good. I been on Facebook since 2009 and have found so many friend that I have not seen for so long. I think it is a great way to stay connected and not be bored having to talk to each other.(sorry guys) I didn't mean to hurt anyone feeling but we can only talk about so much.
        Facebook is like your own personal phone book, photo album basically your life and whatever you want to share. I don't mind sharing what's on my mind because it lets people I know how I'm feeling inside but I'll will never be negative on Facebook because I just don't think people should share that part of their life but if you want to it's all good.
        My son always ask me if he can get a Facebook page. Sorry, Shyne but you are to young. I know when he gets older and get his own page. I don't even know if he would want me to be all up in his life but I will never know till then. I just think that he is to young to be on their right now because he is only 7 years old. I don't want him hanging out on the computer all day. I rather let him go outside and play to stay active because he is a kid. I try not to be on it that much but like I say it's like a bad addiction, alright they got me. LOL
        Facebook is nice, I rather hang out with everyone online because it is a lot easier then having a get together. I know that we are all busy with life family and work but Facebook lets us all hang out together all the time without the work. We can hang out all day long and still get to live life the way we want. Upload picture, share music, news or whatever is on our mind. I gotta say it Must Be Nice!! because it is and it's free...Use it, enjoy it but don't mess it up for everybody by saying something stupid and that real talk...

Grown..............Not Forever Young.................

" We get older not younger, Grow up before it's to late. Being grown is not about nexts weekend, it's about where am I gonna be in five years." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

     All I can say is that I'm grown and I don't have time for none sense or bull shit. I am a 32 year old man that knows what I want in life and know what I'm talking about. I still will never understand people that think they are forever young. I am young at heart but my lifestyle and thinking is grown. Trust me I can still party like a rock star , when I want to but I don't get to do it that much anymore. Being married and having three kids, I'm pretty busy. The only real party I get anymore are kids birtday party...fun, fun,fun..LOL but it is..
     I'm grown because I am always worrying about where I'm going to be in five years. I know I can't keep hanging out like I was a teen. It's fun and all but it gets old. I been kicking it and hanging out since I was 12 years old, kicking it so much that I drop out of school in the 10th grade. I'm still kicking myself everyday for that but it's all good because life goes on and you can't keep looking back.
    I so grown sometime that I don't even like being grown anymore that how grown I am. After I turn 21 years old I stop counting. I don't really like to celebrate my birthday either. Why? I'm only getting older. 21 was the last milestone for me because then I can buy alcohol, that was cool and I was loving it. So much so I got a DUI and then another one at 22, so you can say I know how to party but not like that anymore.
     I'm grown because my kids remind me everyday. My daughter always say to me, Daddy your old and all I can say is thanks for reminding me(princess). I'm so grown that I don't even do much anymore, just more worry about life and where I'm going to be later in life. My kids are getting older and yes that means me too. So I am worry about a lot of things now, not so fun sometime but I guess that's what being grown is.
     I'm not saying anything bad or complaining about it because I understand it. I know where I'm at in life and know where I wanna go that's what makes me grown. I like having the freedom to do what I what and when I want but I know I'll never have total freedom like being single with no kids but it's cool. I love my kids to much to think like that, I guess that's what makes me grown.
     People sometime look at being grown like it's  a bad thing but it's not. I like being grown but I like being young too, when I was young. I just enjoy life as I live it because that's what life is about. We live, we learn, we grow old and we all been young already. So take life as it is and nobody lives forever, so forever young I know I never be but I do enjoy everyday that I am living. Forever grown, forever young but I'll be forever me and that is enjoying whatever age I am because I get to be it only once. Young or old doesn't matter because we are all heading the same direction in life.~real talk~

No College Degree...........But It Still Can Be Done( learning the hard way)

"Don't need a college degree to be educated but you do need a college degree to get paid for what your worth." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

"A formal education will make you a living but self education will make you a fortune."~Jim Rohn~

         I had to learn my education the hard way, on my own and through my life experiences. I can tell you it was not easy but if I knew what I know now, I would have stayed in school. It's not easy learning on my own but I guess I had to because I didn't finish the schooling I needed. I made many mistake in my past but I don't regret anything I have done because everything I did, good and bad thought me so much.
          Life is my teacher because I am living it, if I don't learned from life, on my own then no one will teach me because to be thought something you don't know about you have to pay someone to teach you. I'm not going to keep being stupid about because I get it and I don't get mad about it. I just understand it, this is life and if you don't get it now then it will be your lost.
        I never been lost in my life because I always knew what I wanted out of life. Being a teen and having friends was a lot of fun but it never taught me much but how to have fun. I knew ever since I was young, I always want more out of life. I never like people telling me what to do and I think that is all of us. I am not a yes man but when I am at work ,I know I don't have that much choice but don't come at me the wrong way because I am grown.
           So no college degree here but when I look at my life accomplishment and all the things I been through. I am proud of myself to have made it this far. I never finish high school but I was still able to do everything that some people with a degree was able to do and more. I know so because I am living in a neighborhood full of people with college degree and I was only 27 when I bought my second home value at $428,000.00. I never made as much as a person with a college degree did but I was able to move in next door and they are all 10 years or more older then I am. I"m just wanna make my point that it can be done but it is up to the person to want it bad enough.
           My wife was layoff from her job in 2008 to 2011 then my dad past away on May 2009. We had our third child on Nov 2009 after that I moved my mom up to Washington State to help care for her. On Feb, 2010, I trademarked "MBN2B Life Passion Attitude Pride" Apparel and Must Be Nice! Kids Clothing for my Clothing business and I didn't know anything about making clothing or design at that time. Now here I am 2years later, still working on it and hope to get it done soon on my own or with a team ( doesn't matter).So no college degree but I'm still doing it.
           I did all my learning from life and listening to people that is willing to teach me. I didn't like to listen to anybody when I was younger but now I'm listening when they are talking. Listening to anyone that's already been there and understand it. Young mined people will never get till it's to late. Welcome to life learn from it.~real talk~

Dear, Homie and Friends.............Understand Why...............

  "Homie are friends and friends will always understand. Old Friends, New Friends, Future Friends and Facebook friends still we are all friends." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

      I grew up with many friends and yes they are my homie. Homie is a street slang for a friend but I am grown now so I don't really use that word anymore but maybe around my childhood friends that I grew up with. It's kinda crazy this Facebook stuff. I can say I am grateful for it because I moved around a lot and it is a nice way to stay in contact with old friends and homie.
     When I was young, friends was everything to me. I was always with them hang out, doing things and even doing things we were not suppose too but yes that is part of being a kid. Learning about life and friends along the way. I do have many friends from all walks of life and they are from every place I ever lived. I think I'm a good friend, if you really get to know me but anyway this is a letter to all my friends.
    New friends, old friends and future friends, I know some of us might not have known each other long, some we did everything together maybe some of us got into to it with each other but as friends we get over it and yes, I had many good times and some bad moment with all my friends good but as we get older. We all learned to change and try to find our own way in life. When we were young yes it was fun but that was when we were kids. Maybe some of us got into trouble with the law and maybe some even did times behind bar but that is also put of life that some of us have to learn the hard way.
    I did some jail time myself and yes I can say it was not worth it. I really didn't have anyone write me but it was cool because I understand. I never did write to any of my friends either when I was out and they were in. When I was in jail and doing my time, I just did my thing and didn't care if anyone write me or not. I didn't write to anyone either and it's not like I didn't have time too but what was I going to write about. How fun it is to be locked up.
    This is what I have learned about being locked up. We all got our own life that we live and we can't expect anyone to stop living their life and make time for the one that is locked up because like they say life goes on and it's not that I don't care for my friends or homie that was doing time. As for me I am trying my best to live life and make it myself. When some of my friends is locked up, I can't really do anything for them but when they get out, they can always find me and I will be there to help them out because this is when it matter most, that to me is what a homie or a friend is.
      So to all my homies and friends. I am here and still here for anyone if you need me but please understand that I have a family of my own now. I am trying my best to give my kids something I never had. Coming from a broken home and moving from state to state. I never had it that good in my life and I am now trying my best to give it to my kids. I know that if you have kids you'll understand. We will always be homie and friends but yes we all gotta grow up.
      We are not kids anymore, I understand that if you don't have time to come kick it, hang out, write or call, it's cool and that is why it's nice to have a Facebook page to stay in contact. I see you.We all still gotta live our own life and yes we might not talk to each other on it that much but that doesn't mean were not friends. It's just now our friendship is different from before because we not kids hanging out anymore.We now found out who we are in life and doing what is best for ourselves because we are grown. We are all busy trying our best to make it in this world but when I see you again for sure we will kick it and have a beer or two but you and I know things are not the same like it use to be because we are grown and that's real talk.

Death........ Only hard for the one that is living..............

       "Nobody lives forever and life goes on. So enjoy what you got." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

                                    
      Nobody wants to die but I can't pick the day I want to go. Life in this world will go on with out me and I know that, excepting death is not like it's a bad thing,it is part of life. If you understand life and then you know death is part of it. Nobody lives forever, so enjoy it whatever you got because you will never know when it will be your time.
      I don't want to die, well not right now but if something happen, what can I do? I know I don't want to live forever because forever is a long long time but while I'm here I'm gonna make the best out of it, like I say no time for drama because it's not worth it. I always told people that if this is haven(meaning the earth) I don't want to be here because I do believe that there is a better place for me after this but only if you believe in it and I do.
     I don't know when my day will come but I'm not going to wait for it, until then. I gotta live it up. So much to do in this world, I get high just thinking about it and that's real talk. I have always been a simple person, eat good, sleep good,I'm good never asking for to much.
    I remember when my dad die, it's wasn't easy for me to let go but what I have learned is that death is only hard for the people that is living. I didn't want to see my dad go but when I saw him dying in his death bed it was not easy. My dad was fighting to stay alive and I can see it. I was driving 10hr to go see him every weekend in the hospital. I love my dad and yes he means a lot to me that is why he is my dad. I know what it is like being a dad and it's not easy.
    When my dad gave his last breath and could not hold on anymore then the doctor ask me if I just wanted to let him go and I said (yes)Now he is in a better place. Seeing my dad like that was not what I wanted but I was glad I was there for his last breath. I know it was not easy at the time but I have come to understand that one day it will be me. I can say that my dad lived his life, he was 65 years old when he pass away. Love you dad and see you when I get there.
     Now I get it death is only hard for the people that is living because life does go on. I mean I was living my own life already and have kids of my own. So my parent is not that big of a part of my life anymore, they did their job and did the best they could for me. My mom is still living and she been sick for over 5 years now, living off a machine. She on dialyses three times a week because her Kinney does not work. She had told me she just waiting for her time because it can be any day now. She just turn 62 years old last year.
      I remember before I moved to Washington State. I just got out of jail in California and my mom told me Kit, I'm not going to be around for long and you need to learned to take care of yourself, I was 19 years old then. Ever since she told me that, I have been doing just that, taking care of myself. Like, I said before I moved her up here to be close to me and help care for her with my brother and sister. Now she is living near by me and I can see her anytime(so glad) but I do have my own life and my family that I have to care for but she understand because she is a mom also.
    Death is coming and I'm not scared because it is something I can not control but I do control how I live my life. I only want to do what's best for my kids because they are the one that matter most. I love life but I understand death is part of it. So to be able to live happy you can not worry about death. I'm living life and I know death is coming but until then what can I do but to be happy for now.~real talk~

What Friends?............They Come, They Go...........

   "Don't expect anything from a friend but understand why it is the way it is." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

      I don't except anything from my friends but just want them to understand me and come hang out every now and then. I know everyone got their own life they gotta live. So I understand what being a friend is about. Here is an ex-sample, I didn' have a ride to work one day and so I walked then a friend/co- worker ask me why didn't I call him and ask for a ride because we live near by each other. I said it's cool and I don't like bothering people.
       I think that's what a friend is, someone that understand. I know life is not easy for anyone, so I always try my best to be independent. I do like having a beer with my friend because it is a thing to do. Chilling, joking around and doing what guys do best, hang out. I like to Bar-B-Que, when I have my friends around. Drinking, Bar-B -Que and just hanging out that's my thing.
       When I was growing up, I moved around a lot and so friendship for me was short live but I still remember them all because we were friends. Friends come and go that's what I've learned,  as we all get older, we end up finding ourselves and going our own way in life. When we were young, hanging out with each others was a normal thing because that what all kids do.(got to much time)
         I know things change as we get older because we can't just keep hanging out like we use to because we gotta live our life but that is part of growing up. I think my friend would understand that. Being young it was cool to hang out all the time but as we all get older. We changes because girls come into our lives, not a bad thing because we can't be hanging out with guys all the time, it's gets old. Homie or not that real talk
          Being a father to my three kids and a husband to my wife full time is Not easy .(LOL) but I do enjoy it. So my times for my friend will be short now. Maybe we will see each other on our kids birthday or a holiday when we have time. Things is not going to be the same anymore because my kids and family will come first. Friends, if they understand then they will know and if not, well life goes on like they say.
          Friends will always understand that is why I never ask anything from a friend but I will still help if they ever need me but only if I can because I do have a family of my own. Friends, good for hanging out and having a beer. Getting together when we can because that what friends do. Time to grow up and understand what friendship mean. Friends to me is for hanging out and doing guy things because as a guy we all need that sometime. Friends are good for good times, that is it but finding a friend that understand that is hard to find. I might not have that much time for my friends anymore but I hope they understand that this is life ~real talk~

Money...........Don't Rain.......

"  Smart money is about making more with less, Money doesn't have a brain but we do." Simple, All men are created equal ~real talk~

     I don't make it rain because having come from a poor background. I appreciate every cent I can make because money doesn't come easy for me. No college degree to be able to make more. So I guess I can't make it rain. I know, how it feel to be hungry and now being grown I have to make money work for me. I don't make much and what I make, I must make it work. Like the saying goes trying to make a dollar out of fifteen cent. Peopel that knows me or see me, might think I got money or got it good but I don't, I'm just smart with it..It's not about how much you make but more about what you do with your money.~real talk~
     I been working for over eight years at the same place and never made more then most of my co-worker. They all love to talk about how much money they make and it's all good. I mean some of them make double what I make. I am a family of five, a dog with a mortgage and yes car payment. I know, I'm not the only one with these bill. I wish I could make money like them but I know it's not easy for me with a family of five, don't have time like that anymore but if I did, I would.
      Every dollar that I make, I will always try to invest it, so I can get more out of it. Spending money is easy but making it is hard unless you enjoy working more hours. Working is not that bad, just having to deal with co-worker is the hard part but we all still gotta eat, so we all gotta work. I been on my own for long enough and I know, how hard it is for me to make money.
      I remember selling my car to make the rent because I have too. Sometime we have to do what we have do and that is part of life. I never had that good in life, so I have learned to make money work for me. I did some jail time in North Seattle for a D.U.I. and was in there for two months. I was working in the jail house kitchen, washing dishes for $4.25 a day and that was eight hour of work. So I know, how hard it is to make money but sometime you gotta do what you gotta do. I was even able to save almost $100.00 buck before I got out. I had a lot of time to think about my life and read a lot of book (self help)that was a good thing.
      I guess doing some jail time was good for me, it kinda straighten me up for the better. I'll never make it rain with my money because I know, I don't got it like that and if I did, I wouldn't anyway. I'm only making enough to get by and always trying to stretch it out because I have to.
       I love money, just like everyone. I'm not cheap, I'm just smart with my money and I am fair with people. I take care of people that knows how to take care of me. I never ask for a hand out but will always try my best to help others. I work hard for my money, so every cent count. I can't make it rain but I still know how to have fun. I don't need to make it rain because I love my money to much. I don't floss or show off because I don't got it like that.
      If you got it good and can floss that, I ain't mad at you because I would too. Life is about living it up. So live it up and do your thing but remember money doesn't rain and if you can make it rain, make it rain over here because I'll pick it up(LOL).
       If you don't know what to do with your money by now then all I can say is that you don't know how much money matter. Working hard and making every cent count because money doesn't come easy for people like me without the right education. I am not going to be dumb with my money because I worked to hard to make it rain and you can call me cheap but to me it's about being smart. Smart money is about making more with less. ~real talk~

Ghetto.............Stop it ..............

 " Time to grow up and get real, Hip hop is cool but ghetto is not. The ghetto is not a place to be proud off. It's a place where many people is trying to get out. I understand it because I grew up around it but I will never be ghetto with ghetto attitude." Simple, All men are created equal.~real talk~

       I know that I am going to piss some people off but it's cool because this is my opinion. I can say from my own experience in life. I would not want to be ghetto and that's real talk. I been there 1992 California. I have learned to change so much, a full 180 and it was not easy. Many people is trying to get out of the ghetto and you got some people that got it good trying to be ghetto (something wrong with there) Don't get me wrong I love hip hop music and all but being ghetto is one thing and hip hop lifestyle is another. I'm not talking about hip hop fashion or lifestyle at all, so don't get it mix up. I know what I am talking about.
        Ghetto people talk real ignorant, mostly cursing all the time and talk real dumb. Always get mad about everything like a little kid. Most ghetto people can't control their feeling and will act out if you piss them off. They can not control themselves and will not listen to reason but enough of that. I can't stand people talking ghetto. I just don't get it but I guess using made up word and short slang makes them sound hard... Really? Same and dumb words over and over does not make you hard or smart but just real ignorant, so just keep talking the way you do. Being ghetto is not something to be proud off.
        I am not trying to put anyone down but I just think we all can be better then that. I use to be the same, so who am I to talk. I am grown, I have kids and I want the best for them and ghetto they never will be. I worked to hard to beat the odd to make it and doing something with my life that has meaning. I have learned to change the way I talk and dress now for the better. I don't want anything to remind me of how tough it us to be for me. I am moving on and do something to better myself to do better in life.
        Ghetto people want respect but don't even know what respect is. Respect is something we give to each other man to man that real talk don't be ignorant about it because most of us are strong enough to hold our feeling back as a grown man and let ignorant be because it's not wroth it. Many of us are grown and understand life.Having a family and trying our best to give our kids something we never had. I work to hard to get the respect I want because respect as a man doesn't not come easy when we are always judge by the why we talk and dress. It is so hard for me to defend my generation sometime but I will always try because I understand. I came from the same background but sad to see my people that can do better but chose not too.Our parent came so far and try so hard to give us a this opportunity to better ourselves but most of us just throw it away.So much opportunity here for us all but only if you want it bad enough. I understand being young and not knowing but being grown and still don't know(something is wrong there)~.real talk~
        I am grateful for the opportunity that is given to me that is why, I am done with being ghetto and that is the past (so glad) trust me it was not easy trying to learn to change that why it takes a strong person . I am not a shame of my ghetto past because I know about it but to become better we must changed and that is why we left the hood because we want better. If I want better I need to learn to be better. I know what ghetto lifestyle got me and that is a whole bunch of drama over nothing and lack of understanding got me a lot of jail time. I'm glad that I made this far and never going back. I am not better, I just learned to be better then I use to be.~real talk~